Updated: Nov 19, 2021
There are so many things to remember for your wedding, it’s where a planner comes in handy. But for those of you who don’t have a wedding coordinator to help you remember all these items, I compiled a list of 23 most commonly forgotten items on your wedding day. These are ones that literally, almost every single couple forgets at least one of these. I definitely forgot a couple of these on my wedding day. Hopefully, this will be really helpful for you to remember what you’re not supposed to forget.
23 commonly forgotten things for your wedding day:
Feed your maids of honor, other helpers and yourself. Yes it’s very common for us to be so busy on our big day that we can forget to pack a lunch for us and everyone in our bridal party. You still need to eat! A few sandwiches go a long way, make them the night before.
Hydrate yourself. In fact, start hydrating a few days beforehand. It’ll help your skin to be clearer and more refreshed, and you will be able to handle the marathon that is your wonderful wedding day. Sure, if you’re wearing a big elaborate dress, it may make it a little bit harder to go to the bathroom, but you’d rather be hydrated and go to the bathroom all of the time than pass out. Because again, face-planting on the ground: Not cute.
So many people forget transportation. And that’s not just when you leave the reception in some sort of grand vehicle. That’s from the getting ready location to the ceremony location. From the ceremony location to the reception. And from the reception to wherever you’re leaving for the rest of the night. And it’s not just you that needs to figure that out. It’s your entire bridal party. Luckily, we have Uber and Lyft, those can be called on last minute, just in case you do forget. But I do recommend that you have some sort of transportation schedule or vehicle worked out in your mind. You can mob on over to the ceremony in your maid of honor’s car. That’s perfectly fine. Just make sure you think through those details beforehand so you’re not stranded. In your wedding dress.
4. A Point Person
This is where a coordinator comes in handy. This is where you have to, have to, have to have a coordinator. Or a point person. So nobody is coming up to you and asking questions when you’re in the middle of your first dance. Not that anybody would do that, but, you know what I mean. Designate someone that has all of the contact information for all of your vendors, knows your day timeline, and knows where all of your stuff is. That is your point person. They should handle all of the chaos behind the scenes so you can enjoy your wedding day. Guys, you know how I feel about this. That’s where you need a coordinator. If you can’t afford one, you still need to designate someone to be in charge of those items.
5. Your Marriage License
You need to carve out time to sign it, and you need to make sure someone is in charge of handling that. It’s a legally binding document and it’s very, very important. So find someone that you trust to make sure that that is in safe hands so it can be mailed out properly later.
6. Emergency Kit
A lot of people are pretty good at putting this together, but you do need to sit down and come up with all the items that you need. Here’s a starting place:
Makeup for Touch-Ups
Nail polish & remover
Clear nail polish
Tampons or pads
Toothbrush & toothpaste
Portable phone charger
Small snacks (like granola bars or crackers)
7. Music Selection
With a professional DJ, this is much less of a concern because they’re pretty good about asking all the questions. But in case you’re DIY in your music or you’ve pushed everything to the last minute, that could be very stressful on your wedding day when someone’s running up to you on your wedding day and being like, “Hey, we’re about to do the bouquet toss, what song am I supposed to play?” You’ve got plenty of time to start making a playlist on Spotify or on Apple Music and select out of the songs you want played for the perfunctory moments. Mother-daughter dance, mother-son dance, first dance, processional, recessional, blah-blah-blah. Having those all organized ahead of time means you’re not getting bugged on your wedding day, and just enjoying it.
8. A Tear-down Crew
This is one of the most overlooked items for your wedding day. Read over your contracts very carefully. Make sure you have someone to bus the tables, to pick up trash, to gather all of your belongings, to take down any string lights that you’ve hung up, to remove florals from arbors if the venue requires it. And don’t do that age-old classic, “Well, people are there, I’m sure they’ll help out.” Because sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they do, but sometimes they don’t. Make sure you have a tear-down crew, and make sure they know that they’re doing it. Don’t just tell your coordinator, like, “Ah, yeah, they’ll do it,” and not tell them that they’re doing it.